I've never had a problem with wearing my retainer in public. I had braces for 11 years - round three only came off at age 29. Having worn braces for - at that stage - half my life since I stopped eating crayons, I find wearing a retainer now to be amateur stuff. When you are used to full train tracks, the simple wire retainer is hardly anything to notice!
My retainer is very real - and I have to wear the damn thing if I don't wanna get into round four of railway tracks (which, believe it or not, is not an option - no matter how kinky it may sound, entering my middle-age with a mouth full of metal, again, is just not that appealing!). But just because its real doesn't mean I don't wear it occasionally for "fun and games". And this is where I've learned just how unobservant people really are. No one notices a retainer. Ever. No matter how self-conscious you may be, no one sees the damn thing! I once decided to go on one of "those" adventures, and went to a photo shoot wearing my retainer. (I'm a commercial photographer by trade, I do a lot of fashion and glamour work).
I'm in the studio with a beautiful model and an even more beautiful make-up artist, and I'm retained. Kinda freaky - or so I thought. The Make-up artist offered me a snack. "Sorry, I cannot eat with my retainer in" I say.
"What retainer?" she asks - and I show her my Hawley.
Her reaction: "oh, you wear braces, I did not even see that!"
The model: "What? do you wear braces?"
These are two people I've spent the last few hours in my studio with, giving them direction and talking to them extensively, and neither of them noticed.
This is where I thought headgear would come in... surely people cannot *not* notice headgear, right? It's quite literally in your face, visible from all angles. And mine is not just a mere cervical either, it's a classic 1960's ugly piece of utilitarian interlandi orthodontia.
I've had a few - like three or four - public appearances with it. Two of these public appearances was specifically to have a very public headgear adventure! Once I went to a mall (
https://www.bracesforum.net/general/my-first-truly-public-headgear-adventure/msg88055/#msg88055) and once with a beautiful friend to a pub for a few drinks. Both times were scary as hell.
But one thing I've noticed, is how few people noticed. Sitting in a pub full of people, and there I am, all geared up - literally on display - I was quite surprised by how many stares I did NOT get.
Once I was on assignment, I was shooting a golf course. (This is how you make a living, stay in a 4-bedroom serviced house on a luxury golf estate for 2 weeks taking photos! All expenses except booze paid for!) Getting the best pics are just as the sun comes up, at about 5:00, 5:30 AM. I decided to screw it, and go shoot the deserted golf course geared up. All went well until an elderly lady came jogging up the path - and there was no way I could just quickly duck out of sight. Or take my headgear off without making it obvious. Then she jogged over to me. And she asked me what I'm doing, and I told her about the project for the golf course, and we spoke about a bit of photography, before she jogged off again. Never even uttered a word, or even seemed to notice - the headgear.
People are not nearly as observant as we think they are.