I have written a short story and I hope you will enjoy it.
1. Talking to my son
Today is the day I have to talk to my son. I cannot put it off any longer. I already know that this will be a difficult task because he usually does what he wants to do. This is clearly something he inherited from my wife.
My wife and I are no longer living together, but we are not yet divorced. We had a big fight before we decided to live separately. Our children had to decide which parent they wanted to live with. Our daughter Sandrine went with my wife. And Marc decided to stay with me.
"Marc, come down, we need to talk," I called from the stairs of our house. Like most thirteen-year-old kids, he likes to play games on his computer. Mostly shooters, I guess, from the sounds I can hear coming from his room. Now that there are only two of us, the house is too big for us, but I like it and do not want to move.
I can hear him coming down the stairs. He does it by making a lot of noise. This is his way of telling me that he doesn't want to come but has decided to obey my command. This is going to be a tough conversation and I hope it goes well.
He sits down on the couch next to me and looks directly at me with an annoyed expression. I know he wants to play games and not talk to his father. But I have to start, "Marc, your sister already has braces and I think it is time for you to see an orthodontist.“
He cuts me off, "No, I don't want braces." This is exactly the reaction I was expecting. I tell him, "This is just a consultation and the orthodontist will decide if you need braces.“ He yells at me, "I told you, I do not want braces. Can I go now?"
He reminds me of his mother. Discussions with her went exactly the same way. Either she would agree right away or she would refuse to even talk about it. I tell him, "Give me five minutes and then you can go play computer games. He looks angry, but to my surprise he says, "OK, you have five minutes."
I know I do not need five minutes, but I need him to listen for more than two sentences. My words now have to be chosen carefully. Otherwise, I will lose this discussion and I do not want to drag him to the orthodontist.
I tell him, "You know, most kids have braces these days. They can do so much now. The braces have improved dramatically and they are not as bulky as they were when I was a kid.“ He just looks at me and says nothing.
"Braces can prevent all kinds of problems for you in the future. And they are fully covered by our insurance. This is a great opportunity for you. My parents couldn't afford braces for me and our insurance didn't cover them. Fortunately, I did not need them," I tell him.
He tells me, "You were lucky that your insurance did not cover them.“ I interrupt him, "I didn't need them, otherwise I would have been very happy to get them and have my teeth straightened.“ I can tell he is trying to figure out how to convince me not to take him to the orthodontist.
"Easy for you to say, I doubt you would have liked them," he says. I reply, "Braces are no big deal these days. I would be happy to wear one of these modern braces if I needed them.“ He says, "Your five minutes are up," and leaves.
Like his mother, it is better to leave him alone when he is angry. Actually, this discussion went really well, considering our low standards and the fact that he is in puberty.
I have not told him, but I have already made an appointment with the orthodontist for him in four weeks. This will give me some time to convince him to go to the consultation. And I have to convince him because his mother is expecting me to do so and I do not want to end up in a fight with her.
For the next three weeks we talk about him needing braces. Sometimes we can talk calmly and he listens to my arguments. And sometimes we end up arguing and exchanging loud words.
My arguments are the same. The braces are so comfortable and easy now. I would like to wear them if I were him. And that it is only a consultation and he should listen to the doctor and do what he suggests.
My strategy so far has not paid off. So I try a new tactic. I talk about girls. As far as I know, he is not yet interested in girls, but I could be wrong. I tell him that girls really like boys with straight teeth and that his teeth would look so good after the treatment.
When I mention the girls, his look changes. He finally thinks about getting braces. I am sure he will need them, but I will let the doctor tell him. Maybe he is more interested in girls than I thought. Could be because his appearance has changed dramatically. He looks like he wants to listen to me now.
"Marc, this is only a consultation. Please come with me," I tell him for the thousandth time. But this time he says, "Okay, one consultation and then we will never talk about braces again.“ Hearing this makes me very happy, but I have to hide my happiness from him.
"If the doctor doesn't think you need them, I'll never bother you again. But if the doctor thinks you need them, then you have to get them. They are worth it and you will not regret having your teeth fixed.“ To my surprise, he says, "Okay, we have a deal.“
He had finally agreed to the consultation. It was just in time as his consultation was scheduled in less than a week. Having the consultation so soon could look really suspicious to him. I have to sound really surprised when I tell him that his consultation is in less than a week.
"Okay, I will call the orthodontist tomorrow and make an appointment for you. I am sure you will be so happy with your teeth when you are done. It is good that you want to listen to your orthodontist. If I were you, I would definitely do it," I tell him.