40. Consequences
I hug her again and ask her, "What is wrong with you? Please tell me, I promise I will help you." She does not respond to my attempts to talk to her. Instead, she stares blankly at the wall. The look on her face frightens me. There must be something very wrong with her. And I have to find out what it is if I want to help her.
She starts crying again and there is no way for me to talk to her. I rub her back and pull her close to me. I really hope this will help calm her down. My girl is in bad shape and I have to help her, I want to help her. Now we are sitting in her living room for half an hour and I still do not know what is wrong with her.
Not knowing what is wrong with her is a terrible experience. I have never been so worried in my whole life, it is a terrible feeling and I have to fight back my own tears. The thought, "What's wrong with her?" hammers through my head. My hand is shaking slightly and I feel so lonely and hopeless.
My focus goes back to Tamara, she needs to calm down. And she also needs to tell me what is wrong with her. I still hold her in my arms and try to find a solution. But so far the best idea I have is to hold her in my arms. I really hope that helps her.
She calms down very slowly in my arms and I try to dry her tears. I am sure she will soon tell me what is wrong with her, but I have to be patient. Finally she looks at me, ready to talk, and with a broken voice she says, "I am pregnant.” Boom, this is a big surprise. I expected a lot of things, but her being pregnant was not on the list.
At least now I know what upsets her. I understand that this must be shocking news for such a young girl. And the reality is slowly sinking in that if she is pregnant, then I must be the father of the child. This is also quite shocking news for me. It will take a while for me to accept this, but I love children and so I think I will like being a father. The only thing is that this came as a big surprise.
Tamara is still very upset about her pregnancy and has not said anything since her three words "I am pregnant". I have to get her into a state where she is ready to talk to me. We need to talk about her child, my child. There are so many things to talk about. And I want her to accept her pregnancy. She is going to be a great mother. I have to tell her that, but first she has to cool down.
I kiss her on the lips, at first she is a little reluctant to my kiss. But then she accepts it. Feeling her soft lips again is amazing and I let her touch my braces with her tongue, which seems to help her. Her tongue slowly explores my braces and starts to play with my rubber bands. It is a good sign that her interest in braces is back. I think she is slowly recovering from the shock of her pregnancy.
She has calmed down further but is still crying. We sit on the couch and talk. I say to her, "Baby, we are in this together. I am not going to leave you alone with this." She looks at me and manages to say two words, "Thank you". It does not feel good to see her in this state. I want to see her beautiful smile with the braces she loves so much.
We are still on her couch and I have my arm around her. I put my arm around her even tighter, giving her the time she needs. Still in a whiny voice she tells me, "I don't know how this happened. I'm on the pill and this shouldn't have happened. I must have done something wrong.” Again she bursts into tears.
Of course, she cannot be blamed for this, I have contributed to it as well. I look her straight in the eye, "Baby, it is not your fault. Please do not blame yourself for something natural. You are such a strong girl. I am sure you can handle this."
She doesn't say anything for a while, but I can see her brain working. Then she asks me, "You're not angry with me?" Of course I am not, "No, I am not angry with you. Why would I be angry with you?" She replies, "Well, you know, we are both very young and we have not been together very long. And we have never talked about having a baby."
I have to admit that the idea of becoming a father is also very new to me. Of course, one of my goals is to have a girl and have children together, but I didn't expect it to happen so soon. The part with the children was more of a future plan and nothing for the present. But again, I like kids, so it actually feels okay to me.
I tell her, "Come on, smile for me. We are going to have a baby and you are going to be a fantastic mother to our child.” She smiles for the first time, "Are you really taking this so lightly? I thought you were going to run away, or I don't know. I am confused. I don't know what to think. I was really afraid that you would blame me. Oh, I am so confused. This is so overwhelming for me. I am scared and happy at the same time. And I don't know what to do.”
I stop her flood of words with a passionate kiss. The kiss lasts a long time and is perhaps the best kiss we have ever had. She is so passionate in this moment and I cannot believe that she was crying just a few minutes ago. After the kiss, we look into each other's eyes without saying a word. She seems to be thinking about the seriousness of my commitment to her and the baby.
I smile at her, making sure she sees my braces. However, she does not comment on the changes in my braces. She must still be very confused if she cannot see the power chains.
She massages my back with her hand and seems to be thinking about all this. It feels so good when she touches me. And I am happy that she has calmed down and is ready to accept the new reality of being a mother. At least I hope she is ready.
I tell her again, "We are going to get through this together. I will be by your side and I will always support you. It is normal to be confused when something big like this happens. It is normal and I love you so much."
Tamara has calmed down now, but I can still see the remnants of shock on her face. I hope I did not look like that when she told me the news. I think of myself as a father and her as a mother. She will be a perfect mother, I am sure. Yes, my child will have the best mother in the world. The best mother who is still in a kind of shocked state.
I know I have to distract her from this shock. So I smile at her and show her all my braces and ask her, "Did you see what I got today?" She realizes she hasn't looked at me properly, "Sorry Tim, I was so confused. I see you have power chains. Let me see them."
I let her explore every detail of my mouth. She is suddenly a different person, eager to discover everything I have. She tells me, "Oh, I love the color. The blue suits you very well. It is so cool that you can have colors now. The silver of these self-ligating brackets has started to get a little boring. Oh, and I hope you are not in pain."
I was so focused on our baby that I didn't think much about my braces. Now, as we talk about them, I can feel the pull of the power chain, this is going to hurt a lot soon. I do not want to bother her with my pain, so I tell her, "I have more. Lynn added thicker wires to my braces. I also have stronger rubber bands in a triangle pattern.”
"Oh, yes, I can see that. The triangle is actually a brilliant idea of Lynn's. She really knows her job. This will correct a problem with your bite caused by your braces. You know, sometimes braces move the teeth, but not immediately in the right direction. We say it has to get worse before it gets better. Addressing this now will save you a lot of treatment time. That is such a good thing. Most orthodontists will not catch this problem this early," she tells me.
I didn't realize this triangle pattern was so important. It was just another change in my treatment, which had already undergone many changes. Now that I can feel the pain, I decide to take a pain killer. I hope it is not too late. Tamara watches me closely as I take the painkiller.
Then she gives me a quick kiss on the cheek, "Tim, I will help you deal with the pain. Don't worry, I know it will hurt, but I'm sure it will be worth it in the end.” She smiles at me again and shows me her pink braces, looking so much happier than before.
Soon after, she runs her finger over my brackets with the power chain. She really enjoys this and I am happy that my braces distract her from the news that she is pregnant. Shortly thereafter, we repeat what caused her pregnancy. We are very gentle with each other, but it is still very passionate.