Chapter Twenty Four.
While Jim had driven them to their appointment, Tara got behind the wheel to drive home. Jim sat in the passenger seat, reclining it back as far as it would go. Tara realized he was trying to hide from any unwelcome stares from other vehicles. She knew he was upset. They drove in silence until Tara said "baby, it is going to be ok. It doesn't look bad at all. We will get through this. It is only a week."
Jim snapped back "that is easy for you to say, you don't have a damn muzzle strapped to your face."
Tara didn't respond.
After a few second she heard him exhale deeply. She glanced over and saw he had his eyes closed. She had turned her attention back to the road when she heard him say "I am sorry baby. Forgive me, please. It isn't your fault. I promise I will try not to take it out on you. Please forgive me."
Tara reached over with her right hand and took his. She replied "oh baby, of course I do."
That evening Jim was still sullen and moody. Dinner had been a disaster as Jim tried to maneuver around the springs in his mouth. He finally gave up and retreated to the bedroom to take a sleep aid and try to just go to sleep.
Tara lay with him, her head on his chest, trying to simply comfort him. From the sound of his breathing, she could tell when he nodded off. Thinking of what had happened because he hadn't worn his protraction gear, she gently shook him. She said "sweetie, let me help you into your CTO."
After he had fallen back asleep, Tara gently crawled out of bed. It was only 9:20 pm and she couldn't sleep. She was too worried about Jim. She tried to figure out how to make this better for him. She drew a blank until she remembered that she had Alex's card with her cell phone number. She picked up her phone and sent a text.
T: Alex, I am sorry to bother you so late. But can you please text me back at your convenience? I need advice.
She got an almost instantaneous reply back.
A: You aren't bothering me. What can I try to help you with?
T: Jim. He is so upset. I am afraid he will stop treatment over this whole mask deal. I don't want him to. What should I do?
There was a long pause.
A: Tara, there isn't a whole lot you can do. Just be there for him. Be supportive. He will have to come to terms with it on his own.
T: Alex, that is not a good answer. Please, there has to be another way. He can't wear this all the time.
A: I understand. But it isn't my call. It is Dr. Brad's. How about this? I will contact Dr. Brad tomorrow and explain the situation. And I will be in touch with you afterwards. Will that work?
The next day Jim hid at home. Tara was at the grocery store looking to buy some protein shakes when her phone dinged. She saw a text from Alex.
A: So I talked with Dr. Brad. He wants Jim to come in first thing Monday morning, 7:30 am. Will that work for him?
T: I am sure it will. What is Dr. Brad planning to do?
A: He didn't say. He just said he would work with Jim to figure out something that would work for him. He did remind me of how important this phase of protraction is for Jim's treatment. I am sorry I don't have more info. Just ask Jim to get through the weekend.
T: Thank you. I wish you had a more definitive answer, but I know your hands are tied.
A: I don't know if this will help. But maybe remind Jim that he isn't that only one that has had to wear his mask in public. It is terrifying at first. I know firsthand. But it does get a little easier over time.
T: Thank you. I will.
Jim rushed across the parking lot of TMJ and Sleep Plus, head down trying to not be seen, at 7:15 on Monday morning. It was the first time he had ventured out of the house since he had the mask installed. He found the door locked so he knocked loudly. After a minute of no response, he knocked again. The door opened a few moments later. Alex smiled at him and said "Jim, please come in." Jim noticed she was not wearing her CTO or facemask.
He stepped inside as she closed the door and locked it back. He said "thank you."
Alex turned and gave him a big smile and said "you are most welcome. You are a few minutes early, but come on back."
As he followed along behind her he asked "are you done with your CTO and facemask?"
She said "I wish. No, I can't drive wearing the CTO. So, I take it off before I leave the house, and then put it back on here before we officially open at 8:30 a.m. The same as Mandy and Lisa."
Turning the corner into the treatment area, Jim saw Dr. Brad standing beside a treatment chair. As Jim approached, Dr. Brad stuck out his hand and smiled like everything was just fine. Dr. Brad said "Mr. Simpson, good morning. Wonderful to see you." Jim was hesitant to shake, he was not very happy with Dr. Brad, but stuck out his hand and shook. As he did Dr. Brad said "so, Alex says you have some issues with the facemask therapy. What seems to be the issue?"
Jim said "the issue is this facemask. That I can't take off. I have a very successful business. While I do want to continue treatment, I will not have it negatively impact my company. If that means quitting treatment, then so be it. But I will not wear this mask out of this office this morning when I leave."
Dr. Brad said "whoa now, no need for that. Let's have a little talk. Can we go to my office please?"
Jim did not say a word but instead simply nodded.
After both were seated Dr. Brad asked "Mr. Simpson, you are a builder and developer correct? I know we have talked about it a little."
Jim nodded his head and curtly said "yes."
Dr. Brad continued "and do you think the quality of your work reflects on you? That your reputation rides on the quality of your work?"
Jim wondered where this was going as he again replied "yes."
Dr. Brad said "I feel the same way. My reputation rides on the quality of my work. I am not a builder, so excuse me if I get some things wrong, but do you feel that the foundation of a home is more important to its structural integrity than the cabinets and trim?"
Jim replied "yes, of course."
Dr. Brad said "so, as a builder, you think that getting the foundation laid correctly is imperative. Would you continue on with a build if you felt the foundation was substandard and would fail sometime down the road?"
Jim shook his head and said "no."
Dr. Brad said "so, like a concrete foundation is key to any home, so is correct occlusion key to a healthy bite. And just like you only have so long to work with wet cement before it sets up, so it is the same with the maxilla. There is a window we have to work with. Right now, we are working on your foundation. And we only have three to four months to get it right. If we miss, everything else will be compromised. So, even if I give you straight white teeth, the build won't be correct. Just like installing the finest marble countertops can't fix a warped and cracked foundation, neither can I fix your smile if we don't get the forward growth we need now.
That is why I am so adamant about you wearing your appliances as prescribed. I admit, I was a little angry you didn't communicate with me before you decided to just come up with your own treatment plan. As I stated up front, if you had asked before hand I would have worked with you. As I will work with you now.
But there was more to this than just you. I wanted to make a point to you of how important this is. But I also wanted to make a point to Tara. You two seem to be in this together. I didn't want her to also fall into bad habits. For you, this is about your airway and snoring. If you don't do this, you will be able to function. But for her? If she doesn't fix her TMJ, it will progress steadily until she is not able to function. So you see, it wasn't just your treatment I was thinking about when I installed your springs, but hers as well. I don't want you to stop treatment. So, let's come up with a compromise. Will that work?"
Jim thought of Tara. He asked "what do you have in mind?"
Dr. Brad said "well, for starters, let's go out to the treatment area so we can take those springs off."
As Jim lay back in the treatment chair, he noticed that Alex was wearing her CTO as she stiffly bent over him. As she worked in his mouth, Dr. Brad explained "so, you can't wear your mask at work in meetings, on job sites, and what not. I get it. So, let's do this. I told you to wear your mask 16 hours a day on average, with the CTO incorporated in for at least 12 of those. For the next two months, I am going to ask you to get 17 hours in a day with the mask on average. Surely you can find one extra hour a day. Even if that means wearing it some extra over the weekends. Again, this time frame is critical to your success. I am also going to integrate class III elastics into your treatment. I will want you to wear them full time. They will not be that visible. And if you take them out for an hour here and there for an important meeting that is fine. Will this work for you?"
With Alex working in his mouth, Jim mumbled out "oh aye".
As Alex lifted the mask off his face Jim took a breath and said "that feels so good."
Dr. Brad smiled and said "I bet it is a relief. But you wearing it like you did has already made up for one of the four days you missed. One down, three to go. I know you will do it. So, are we good?"
Jim said "yes, we are good." He sat in silence a moment before asking "so what are these spacers for? The ones Tara and I both have. They suck by the way. We are both nervous. Tara is just convinced she is going to be getting a Miller appliance. And she can't do that, not with her job. And neither can I."
Dr. Brad chuckled and said "but the Miller appliance is the greatest thing ever. But I hear you. No, I am not fitting Tara for a Miller appliance this Friday. I will be installing a TPA appliance with integrated hooks. This way she will be able to wear her protraction gear without having to wear her nighttime appliance. This will be easier on her. And for you, I am going to install some bands on your premolars along with some TADS in your lower jaw. This will be for your class three elastics. I will be honest, I was already planning for this somewhat. I didn't know if you could or would be willing to wear the mask 24/7, so I went ahead and had a plan B in my back pocket. So, I think we are back on track.
Thank you for coming in. Just please, in the future if there are concerns communicate them to me ahead of time. And also, please reassure Tara that the Miller appliance is not that bad." He gestured over to a treatment chair that Maggie was standing beside, holding a Miller appliance and examining it carefully. It looked huge in her petit hands. Jim noticed there was also a CTO brace with integrated mask laying in the treatment chair. Dr. Brad continued "really, if Tara's treatment does call for a Miller, she will do fine with it. See that appliance in Maggie's hands? That is her appliance. As soon as we get you out of here, I am going to install it for her. I know she has to be excited."
As Jim studied her face, he thought that she didn't look excited. No, she looked scared.